Please stop asking me when I’m going to have another child. It’s really none of your business. But because you insist on asking me, I come up with something that sounds gracious. I’d never tell them my real answer.
When we found out we needed assistance to have a child I made a promise to myself that I would never ask anyone when they were going to have a child or if they were going to have another one.
Maybe they have experienced infertility.
Maybe they have experienced a loss.
Maybe they chose not to have children.
It really is none of anybody’s business.
From someone who’s experienced IVF, thinking about doing it again is really not something that I want to keep at the front of my mind. Asking me again and again when I’m going to have another child just bring it back to the front. And that’s not something I want to deal with right now. When my daughter was born I knew that I knew I needed to think about this but I told myself that I wouldn’t think about this until she was two. It brought on so much anxiety thinking about whether I was going to have another child even though I’d just given birth. Most of my anxiety went away when I decided that it wasn’t something that I wanted to think about until my daughter was two years old.
Please stop asking me when I’m going to have another child
Please stop asking me when I’m going to have another child. The healing time from my daughter’s birth was particularly difficult. It took me eight months to physically heal. And I still don’t think I have emotionally healed.
Please stop asking me when I’m going to have another child. It’s really not something I want to discuss with you. You have no idea how much it cost me to have my first child. Emotionally and physically. IVF is expensive, not to mention all the tests and other methods before you get to that stage.
Please stop asking me when I’m going to have another child. It’s really not something that I feel I have the mental capacity for right now. I experienced some PTSD and postnatal depression. And I still continue to have difficulties, even though my daughter is 2 1/2 years old.
Please stop asking me if I’m going to have another child. Because of the physical damage from my first birth I’ve been told that I won’t be able to give birth naturally. If I have any more children they will need to be delivered by cesarean. And this is something that I need to take seriously. I know cesareans happen all the time. And I know planned cesareans go smoother than emergency C-section‘s. However, it is something that I need to consider for myself and my family.
