Parenting

IVF comes with a lot of things. And for me one of those is regret. While IVF can be amazing, it certainly is life-changing, regardless of the result. But, as I said, I have a few IVF regrets. Here's hoping you don't have the same regrets. I regret being ashamed of my infertility I’m sure I’m not alone in this. But I kind of took it personally when the infertility label was first slapped on me in 2015. And even more so when it changed to unexplained infertility. It’s just that. Unexplained. There is no reason for it. Mine and [...]

Lately, I've been enjoying some mother daughter dates in the beautiful place I live, the Peninsula. I love these little snippets of time that I get to spend with just her. And I have been making a real effort with her to just get out of the house for a few hours because TV seems to rule her life. Find out our favourite places to visit on for mother daughter dates on the Peninsula. Although I think I've also been to all of these places with my husband as a whole-family outing! Mother daughter date ideas on the Peninsula Bounce [...]

I am that mum that judges other mums. And I’m not afraid to admit it. And do you know why? Because I just myself more harshly than I judge anyone else. I’ve been that mum In many cases, I’ve been that mum. You know the one, where you look at the kid and think to yourself, I would never be like that/do that/let my child do that. Famous last words. My daughter often leaves the house in the morning without having brushed her teeth. There have been more occasions where her hair hasn’t been brushed. And the most embarrassing morning [...]

Infertility sucks. I know. I’ve been there. And I hid it from almost everyone I know. I was ashamed that my body wasn’t working the way it ‘should’. I hated every person that asked me when I was going to have a baby, now I hate it when they ask about having another baby. I’d hated every new pregnancy announcement. So I had to find things to do when going through fertility treatment. Put yourself first I put this first on the list because I believe it is the most important thing. And something that often needs to be re-learned [...]

New mums get so much advice. Sometimes it's useful. Other times it's just uncalled for. Here are the top 9 things I would tell any new mum. Get out of the house by yourself or with a friend ASAP I believe that taking my daughter out to lunch with my sister in law when she was less than a week old helped me in the long run. It prepared me to get her ready to be somewhere that didn’t have a time limit so that I knew what I needed when I did have a time limit. It made it [...]

I had a few unusual family traditions growing up. It was a family tradition that my mum worked on Christmas day. And now that I’m 31, she still works Christmas day. My brother and I used to race against each other to “pinch, punch, first of the month". Our family vacations consisted of going to my nan’s house in the country a few times a year. Sure we had big family holidays. But they were never overseas. And they were only every four or so years. Creating family traditions But now that I am a parent, I have an idea [...]

Please stop asking me when I’m going to have another child. It’s really none of your business. But because you insist on asking me, I come up with something that sounds gracious. I’d never tell them my real answer. When we found out we needed assistance to have a child I made a promise to myself that I would never ask anyone when they were going to have a child or if they were going to have another one. Maybe they have experienced infertility. Maybe they have experienced a loss. Maybe they chose not to have children. It really is [...]

Birthday season is upon me and the majority are first birthdays. Between friends, family & parents group, there are about 10 in the span of 2 months, not including my own daughter. On top of all the first birthdays, I also have my mother in law’s birthday, my mothers birthday and my husband is turning 30. Then after all of those, it's Christmas! So what do you even get for a one-year-old? I’m sure they have enough clothes. I’m positive they don't need any more toys. And if they are anything like my daughter, are happy to play with the [...]

Years ago a friend of mine used to always update her Facebook status with a long list of mundane things that she had done for the day. Vacuumed, mopped the floors, changed the bed sheets, washed the towels, washed two loads of clothes, folded all the clothes and put them away, mowed lawn etc. You get the picture. Sometimes posts like that appeared several times a day, each time with new things added to the list. She thought she was a super mum. And I get it now. Now that I am a mum, the household chores often fall by [...]

I wouldn’t change a thing. But if I can pass on a small nugget of advice to anyone, it would make my day. I don’t like to use the word regret. It implies that you would change it if you had the chance. I wouldn’t change a thing but there are a few things I wish I did before becoming a parent. 5 things I wish I did before becoming a parent Save Money I saved like mad until I moved in with my husband. That’s how we managed to have such a decent house deposit. It’s also how we [...]