How A Girls Night Changed My Life

I hosted my first girls’ night in January 2018, and that first girls’ night changed my life. It was such a great night that I hosted another one in February. I guess you could say the rest is history.

Relationships were a major focus for me in 2018, one of the main ones was with my friends. I wanted to catch up with them more often and know more about their day-to-day lives. We all get busy with work, family, and other commitments. We often don’t make time to catch up with those that have been there for us. Life just gets away from you sometimes.

To me, a girl’s night is a night with my girlfriends. No Partners. No Children. Just food, drinks, and great company. It’s a little bit of ‘me time’ which is much needed since most of my friends are also new mums. It’s a great chance to get away from everything, just for the night.

The importance of friendship

Relationships are a part of life. And friendships are no different.

Friends offer emotional support, guidance, and a sense of belonging. They are there to celebrate our successes, commiserate with our failures, and provide a listening ear when we are having a hard time. In times of need, friends can be the backbone of our support system, helping us get through difficult situations.

How a girls night changed my life

I am so much closer to my friends. I’ve learned things about them that I never knew. Like, one of my friends wears contacts, and I never knew!

But our Snapchat group keeps us really up to date with each other every single day. I’ve actually had to turn all of the notifications off because I am so distracted by them. It gives us a place to have a quick vent, share a funny moment of our day and have some company, often in the middle of the night.

Like most friends, we tag each other in memes and other random things we can relate to. Or share updates to our private Facebook group.

And of course, we do our best to catch up as a group almost once a month.

Fun ways to change up girls’ night

There are plenty of fun ways to change up a ladies’ night. If you normally go out, why not stay in? And if you normally stay in consider going out for something different.

If you need specific ideas try some of these girls night activities:

  • start a dinner club where you have dinner (any meal) at someone else’s house next month
  • take online courses together
  • cocktail party (or mocktails to make the next day easier)
  • pool party
  • charcuterie board party (aka the best way to eat)
  • float about in a hydrotherapy pool (I promise you will have a good night’s sleep after this!)

Quality time doesn’t need to be a long time

Catching up with good friends doesn’t need to take months of planning and coordinating. It can be as simple as meeting for coffee or having a chat on the phone.

A little about my friend group

I don’t think I have shared much about my actual friends before. So to help you see what it’s like for us, here are some details about us.

In my group of friends (the squad) there are 10 women.

The age gap between the oldest and youngest is 9 years.

We all have at least one child (some have three!), with the oldest being 11 years older than the youngest.

Some have full-time jobs outside the home, others are stay-at-home mums and there are some between there.

I know I am closer with a few of the ladies. And I know that they might be closer to someone else too. And there is also a good change that they have a best friend outside our group.

I like to send something akin to a personal love letter or motivational message to each of them from time to time.


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