I always complained to my husband that I never had any close friends. He said that I would make friends with the other school mums when our kids were at school. That was a long time for me to wait to cultivate amazing friendships!
I chose not wait for friends to come to me. I decided to do things to become closer to the people I already knew. Now I have a group of 10 women that I am close with and I’m really really close with a few of them too.
Make an effort
Don’t wait for your friend’s to make plans with you, be the one to make an effort to organise something. I’ve found that the more people involved the harder it can be to organise something that suits everyone. With my group of friends, we know that we all have different commitments so we don’t expect each other to be able to everything.
I chose to focus on my relationships in 2018 and by starting a regular girls night we are so much closer than we ever have been.
Show up when things are great and show up when things aren’t so great. It can be easy to choose not to help your friend through a rough patch, we all have things going on. The best way for me to show up for someone going through something is to think about how I would like my friends to show up for me in the same situation. Whether that’s just my company, financial support, running errands and doing chores or dropping off some prepared meals.
Support their dreams
The easiest way to support someone’s dream, especially if they have their own business, is to buy, use or promote their business. A friend of mine started her own housekeeping business about 12 months ago, so I hired her to clean my house once a month. She now has several employees and has had to register for GST. Apart from using her services, it costs nothing to recommend her or like or share her social media posts.
A few years ago, a friend confided in me that she was seeing a specialist doctor for an issue. So I set a reminder for the day after her appointment to see how she went. She really appreciated that I remembered, even though she didn’t go to the appointment.
Surprise your friends with nice messages, cards or actual gifts. At Christmas last year, I wrote a card for everyone telling them what I like about them and how they have affected my life.