A short weekend getaway is so important, it can do wonders for the mind, body & soul. I’m lucky enough to have family living on a farm in the country, about 3 hours drive from where I live. It’s far enough away that it can feel like a holiday yet close enough that it’s still worthwhile to just stay for one night.
A different environment can make a world of difference to my mood, especially the really fresh air you only come across in the country. I often don’t realise how polluted the air is in the suburbs. When I was a kid my asthma would clear up after just a few days at the farm. And the stars! You can see so many more stars on clear night in the country.
There is so much to do on a farm that there isn’t much time to check your phone. When there is a moment spare we often sit in the lounge room reading magazines or books. This time I read a magazine from 1996, oh how times have changed! The television is only generally on to see the weather forecast.
I had the chance to rediscover childhood memories I have from the farm. IT was great to share these memories with my husband & reminisce with my Nan. When I was about 6 years old it snowed enough for us to make snowmen & throw snowballs.
Even without the household chores there is still so much to do, I am certainly out of my comfort zone. There are animals to feed, gardens to explore & people to visit. Each day is jam packed, I am exhausted by dinner time & I always sleep well.
Being out of my comfort zone allows me to look at things with a fresh perspective when I return home. Sometimes you realised the things you worry about aren’t so important any more, or that the worry they cause aren’t worth your precious time. Some time away also allows me to approach obstacles from a different angle, or helps me build on other ideas.
It’s much easier to relax when staying with relatives that enjoy having company. My Nan is 89 years old but insists I relax while she does everything. Occasionally she will put me to work if I persist in trying to help. Because of her age, she insists on many meals throughout the day. We have breakfast, morning tea, lunch often with dessert, afternoon tea, dinner with dessert, then supper.
While the trip home can be tiring, the amazing week that follows a getaway is always well worth it.
The last twelve months have been the year of change. Twelve months is a long time, but then again it isn’t. I know my life has changed dramatically in that time. I quit my job after 9 years. My experience with postnatal depression is now behind me. Our little family went on an interstate holiday for the first time since 2010. And I shouldn’t forget that I turned 30, gracefully.
About halfway through my pregnancy, I decided that I wanted to quit my job. I loved the work, I had variety every day with what I did and who I worked with. But I just wasn’t satisfied. I wanted more. I wanted more responsibility, more recognition for my achievements, and of course more money for said achievements.
I had my daughter almost 18 months ago but started experiencing something in the first few weeks. I feel everything got a lot better around the time of her first birthday. While still being breastfed, she was much less reliant on me, which meant I had a bit more time to myself.
Over the new year, we drove 803km from our home on the peninsula to Adelaide. We spent a week exploring. We visited Harndorf to sample pastries, chocolates, and fudge. A spot of shopping in Rundall Mall. Lunch at Carl’s Jnr, twice because we liked it so much. A day at Middleton beach via the very busy Port Elliot bakery. Then we rung in the new year watching the fireworks at Glenelg pier.
I’m not one to a make a fuss over birthdays kind of person. But I got precisely what I wanted for my birthday. My husband made me breakfast, we went out for lunch, then my husband made silverside for dinner. My present wasn’t that flashy either, but it was exactly what I asked for. For my 30th birthday, I got a 2000L water tank.
The French version of the above quote was written in one of my school diaries. I loved the way it sounded: plus ça change, plus c’est la même chose.
I started organising a monthly Girls Night with my friends as a way to improve my relationships, a major focus for me in 2018. We all get busy with work, family, and other commitments. We often don’t make time to catch up with those that have been there for us. Life just gets away from you sometimes.
To me, a girls night is a night with my girl friends. No Partners. No Children. Just food, drinks, and great company. It’s a little bit of ‘me time’ which is much needed since most of my friends are also new mums. It’s a great chance to get away from everything, just for the night.
I decided to call it Squad Night Off. Then I created a Facebook event to invite everyone, as well as help to keep track of it. Since it was still summer and we have a pool at home I invited everyone to my house.
We have just started planning our fourth Squad Night Off of the year. I can say for certain that the idea has been a great success. Inviting everyone into the pool was also a great hit. A few were hesitant because of their mummy tummies, but they soon decided that they didn’t want to miss out. I was actually one of the last to jump out of the pool at 10pm and the last of the guests left around 1am.
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